6 Fool-Proof Ways to Improve Your Online Dating Profile

Profile tips to help you succeed at finding love online

 

In love - as in life - image matters a lot. When you set up or revamp your online dating profile, it's smart to present yourself in the best (and safest) light. How, you might ask? Just follow our six easy steps.

Hey Man, Nice Shot

Smile, and look into the camera. Pick a photo that doesn't include other people, those giant bug-eye sunglasses you love, or pounds of makeup. Remember - your dates want to see you. What doesn't work, according to researchers at the much heralded OKCupid dating site: a flirty expression on either gender while looking away from the camera - presumably at someone else. And keep in mind that excessive cleavage and drunken party shots may generate a big response, but probably not the kind you're looking for.

(Don't) Lie to Me

The truth is, many people exaggerate in their profiles - typically about height, weight, and income, but also about things like age, marital status, and how recent that "recent" photo was taken. The temptation to fib is understandable but unproductive. Lies will be found out, whether at your first meeting when you show up looking 10 years older and 6 inches shorter than your online self ... or later when you're more involved with someone and the stakes are higher. Don't set yourself - or your dates - up for that kind of heartache.

Quirky vs. Creepy

Mention your passions - that's how good conversations begin. But stop for a second to consider how potential dates will interpret what you say. Loving horror and suspense films is fine. Saying you've watched Silence of the Lambs 300 times might scare some people away. Save that for later in your real-world relationship, when your partner knows from experience that you're a sane and stable person who happens to really dig Anthony Hopkins' Hannibal Lecter.

Avoid Oversharing

Online dating is basically a high-tech way of talking to strangers. And while most people are online to find partners, it's safe to assume there are always going be some who are bent on doing harm. Be careful about what you post, even if you think it doesn't give anything away. If a potential date has your last name and you mention that you own a house in a particular city, for example, he or she could get resourceful and look you up in the online tax rolls (which are public record), get your address, find out how much you paid for your home, etc. From there it's a quick click to Google to see a satellite photo of your house, yard and maybe your car. Protect yourself by giving out minimal personal details until you know someone well and have met in person more than once.

Take it Easy

If you have a gift for writing and can communicate irony, it's fine to lay on a cheesy line. For most of us, though, it's best to steer clear of anything that might seem overbearing or heavy-handed - or just not translate well out of context. It's hard to read people's intent online - we can't see your facial expressions or hear your tone of voice - so "Where have I been all your life?" might seem hilarious to you but obnoxious to someone else. Once you get to know your potential dates in real life, then you can let that silly flag fly. But first you have to meet them, so play it cool for now.

Seriously, Folks

Like cheesy lines, too much kidding around in your profile can make suitors (or suit-ees) think you consider online dating one big joke. No one likes to be made fun of, or have their time wasted, so show people you're there because you really are looking for love. If you're not sure whether your light-hearted approach is too much, ask a friend to proof your profile and offer feedback.

With the right mug shot, the right information (honestly and carefully presented), and the right attitude, you'll be ready to meet others who are interested in what you're interested in: finding someone to spend time with, both on and offline. And maybe someone to watch Silence of the Lambs with for the 301st time.